I've Been Engaged For Two Weeks

These Are Some of My Fiancé's Green Flags.

1. He is refreshingly thoughtful and understands that food is one of the greatest love languages.

2. Every single time this man is back from his adventures, he greets me with a bouquet of Lilac baby’s breathe (without fail). I think he does this so that I understand that I am perhaps both the poet and the poem. Its really cute.

3. He does NOT patronise my financial illiteracy and tries to keep me “in the know” when it comes info that might be helpful. He also allows me to pay for lunch sometimes with my substack earnings and so I don’t feel inadequate.

4. He has this uncanny way of making me laugh with minimal effort and is far more charismatic than he will ever give himself credit for. So I’ll give it to him.

5. He’s really passionate about interacte 2D animation and cinematography. And it great to see his dedication to something that’s so whimsical and specific. I love that he also particular interests beyond his studies at Harvard in AI.

6. He was so keen to accompany me to one of my dinners for The Last Supper Project in Poland. It was with this lovely couple in Wrocław and it was the most incredible double date:

7. He will always encourage me to escape my comfort zone and try new things when we go out. Even though I’m often very particular about what I want and very decisive.

8. We have never had an argument and he apologises more than is indeed necessary - which might be partially due to his autism. (While I remind him that he does not always need to, I’d much rather this than a person who NEVER apologises - so I’m grateful )

9. When I was under immigrant arrest in Poland — all he did was look for solutions with my best friend when my phone was seized and hoped for the best until my release. Alexandré has also read some of the worst things said about me but chooses to allow me to speak to those issues on my own terms. I never feel judged, coaxed or forced to speak my truth with him. And neither does he. He accepts that he will be a witness to my life and that I will a witness to his. Imperfect but still worth witnessing. I love that.

10. After we got engaged, he went and found a ring that better reflected him and was less generic than the bands we first chose. I love that. I love that he’s an individual thinker and goes for what makes him feel true to himself.